How to compromise; not sacrifice but value capture

     

    For a relationship, professional or personal, to maintain a healthy balance, trade-offs and compromises have to be made. But it can be be a difficult discussion to have, as in most cases neither side will want to 'give up' something, usually out of pride, or a sense of entitlement (arisen from effort and time). 

It becomes even more challenging, if there is some level of mutual respect, and lack logic.

Higher Value

The easiest way, I've found to resolve a point of differentiation, is to essentially figure out if that change of value for one party is of a higher value. By that, if they change, will it improve their quality of life? It's usually a bit easier in the business setting to evaluate value creation and capture.

However, within personal relationships with friends and associates, it can prove a bit more emotional. Upon, self reflection I always like to ask myself, will this change make me happier, or improve me physically, mentally or spiritually. 

In the the end, its always about levelling up, It may appear one side is having to 'sacrifice', more but really they are probably capturing more value from the the relationship, than the other.

Friends = Values

When you look around its obvious there are lots of different types of people, where 'success' has different faces, but lets just assume there are different tiers of success, I have come to firmly believe, one cannot improve and grow, with keeping the same friends. Your closest friends and associates have moral and values which play a huge impact on your world view, decisions and actions.

Some of those friends, when you change, will notice it, and naturally, it may appear as negative; as really what it happening is, you are 'leaving them behind', so they may want to hold you back. But take the time to explain things to them, and constructively how the change makes you happier, and adds a positive impact in your life and community.  

If they still resist, your paths overtime will naturally decay, or they will make a scene to influence you. Be conscience, and ask yourself if the thing they are holding you from, adds value to you spiritually, mentally, and/or physically? 

Self-reflect

In times of individuality, and where 'independence' is the word of our time, many people maybe short-selling themselves from growth. Remember to always self-reflect, and question whether one is growing for themselves and their community, otherwise you'll get stuck. An easy way to do that is to reconsider those closest to you, if they are holding you back, don't be afraid to level up with some new friends.

Change - not always easy

The change, as with anything may not be easy at first, but after a while if you try to go back, there is a noticeable difference in the quality of life. Be aware to this, and make a conscience decision to not go back to that (old way).

Highest of Values

If one thinks at a bigger level, and imagines going to the highest order of values, ie the best of humankind, they'll find it leads to supernatural existence, ie a God. Hence, why it helps to have faith.